How do you define self-love? Do you see it as boastful behavior motivated by a desire to gain the acceptance or esteem of others? Or, do you see self-love as a form of obnxious behavior akin to ego-mania? Nothing could be further from the truth. Self-love has nothing to do with telling everyone how wonderful you are. Such behavior often indicates that the individuals in question are evaluating themselves on how others see them. If they were not, they would not feel the need to convince others of their merit. No, this is not self-love. In fact, this behavior may be just as neurotic as the behavior of the individual who is overloaded with self-contempt.
Self love means accepting yourself as a worthy person. It means you love yourself regardless of the opinions of other people. Self love does not demand the love of others. An internal acceptance is sufficient.
When you never, knowingly, say or do anything that will harm yourself or another person you will be experiencing self-love.
Self Observation
A. Do you ever speak disparangingly of any religion?
B. Do you correct others for errors of speech, statements or manners?
C. Are you occasionally sarcastic?
D. Do you interrupt when others are talking?
E. Do you play childish practical jokes?
F. Do you point out flaws in dress or features to others?
G. Do you contradict persons you converse with?
H. Do you talk more than others you are with?
I. Do you make derogatory statements about any race?
J. Do you laugh at people caught in embarrassing situations?
K. Do you refrain from asking personal questions?
L. Do you go out of your way to be helpful to others?
M. Do you rarely ask favors?
N. Are you free with your thanks for small courtesies?
0. Do you habitually do thoughtful little things for others?
P. Do you show respect for others in speech and action?
Q. Do you reveal a sincere interest in the interests of others?
R. Do you invariably respect the privacy of others?
S. Do you compliment others on their little victories without undue flattery?
T. Do you ever say, "You're wrong about that."?
U. Do you ever say, "How anyone can take a view such as yours is beyond me."?
V. Do you ever say, "That's impossible! That's out of the picture!"?
W. Do you ever say, "I am an expert and know more about it than you do."?
X. Do you ever say, "I am wrong and you are right."?
Y. Do you ever help others to feel important by asking them for favors that are easy for them to do, thereby showing them that you need and depend on them?
Z. Do you listen to and laugh at jokes without revealing that you have heard them before?
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